May 19, 2005

What if?

What exactly makes a relationship go sour? Is it the lack of passion? No heartfelt connection? Kids? Being unfaithful? Or can it simply be growing apart instead of living as one?

When you choose that special someone to spend the rest of your life with, how do you know itís going to last forever? How do you know your going to feel that WAY 10 , 20 or even 50 years from now?

Is there such a thing as a soul mate? If you do choose that person, how do you know that there isnít someone else out there that is better for you? Should anyone just settle for what they can get?

When your young and choose that person for life - How do you know that heís the one, especially when you havenít even dipped your toes in the lake to test the waters?

What if one person wants out and the other likes things just the way it is. Itís comfortable for one and suffocating for another? What if there are kids involved?

Would you sacrifice your kidís happiness for your own?

Do people change? Do they grow apart? Or is it boredom?

Is it really ok to want to stay at work and not go home? Is it ok to not really have anything in common with your spouse? Is it really true that opposites attract? If so, then what do you have to talk about?

What if you sex life dies? Then what? What happens when your loved one chooses a TV. program over you. Do you get yourself a vibrator, call it Bob and sacrifice the passion in your heart?

What if youíve tried every thing you can think of to make great things happen and it fails miserably. What happens when life gets so mundane and so blah you speak to your spouse only when youíre passing in the hallway?

Gone are the compliments. The butterflies have left your belly years ago. No more playing footsie in bed. Gone are the lingering looks of amazement.

Replaced by bickering. Nausea, Cover hogging or kicking each other for more room. Looks of disgust or bewilderment is on your face instead.

Do people really break up over being lonely? Do they get divorced because their bored?

What if everyday you woke up Ė you wished just for a little while you were alone?

Posted by Tiffani at May 19, 2005 10:57 AM | TrackBack

Brave post. You ask important questions. I wish I knew the answers. All I can say is that I understand why one would ask them.

Posted by: Kenneth at May 21, 2005 12:18 AM

Ouch. Those are some incredibly painful questions. The bare truth is that people always grow apart unless they work on growing together.

I have a friend who's about to have his twentieth wedding anniversary. He and his wife are basically strangers living in the same house. They're only together on holidays and the occasional weekend. They even do their own laundry. I hope to hell you don't ever get in that situation.

Posted by: Jim at May 25, 2005 11:21 AM
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